Raising children as a co-parent means weathering certain challenges. One that’s sometimes contentious involves determining how to handle times when children are off of school for summer vacation.
Thankfully, there are certain ways that co-parents can make the situation less stressful. Considering these matters well in advance of the end of the school year is beneficial so that expectations can be set and tensions related to last-minute planning can be avoided.
Determine vacation schedules
If you’re co-parenting with your ex, know that early planning is crucial when it comes to setting vacation schedules as co-parents. You should discuss vacation plans with your co-parent and agree upon vacation plans well in advance of the summer months. Ideally, specific dates, travel destinations and any other relevant details that could impact your parenting time schedule will be covered. Having this worked out in advance can help to ensure that both parents have equal opportunities to make meaningful summer memories with their children.
Remain flexible about parenting time
Summer often brings unexpected opportunities and changes to regular schedules. Remaining flexible about parenting time can make it easier to have a smooth summer for the children and the parents. Being open to swapping weekends or adjusting the length of stays to accommodate special events or family visits is beneficial. Flexibility allows children to make the most of their summer break without feeling caught in rigid custody arrangements.
Encourage the children to enjoy both parents
It’s important for co-parents to encourage their children to enjoy the time spent with both parents. This means speaking positively about the other parent and their plans for the summer, reinforcing the idea that it’s okay—and encouraged—to have fun with both parents. Avoid making children feel guilty for enjoying their time away from you, and instead, show genuine interest in their experiences and adventures. This attitude helps children feel secure and loved by both parents, which is essential for their emotional well-being.
Before you start any vacation or summer break planning, be sure to review your parenting plan. It may contain terms for when, where and how plans during the summer months should be handled. If there are disagreements about anything, it might be necessary to seek legal guidance to determine your options moving forward.
