Though a couple may make the difficult decision to divorce and no longer be spouses, that does not mean that they are no longer parents. Co-parenting tips can help the divorcing parents successfully co-parent and navigate child custody considerations following their divorce.
Successful co-parenting begins with some basics including each parent putting themselves in the shoes of the other parent, as well as the children. It is always important to have a written visitation schedule but also to be flexible to meet the needs of the children. If engaging in an activity with the other parent, though it is not their day, would be beneficial to the children, then parents should take that into account. The schedule should reflect the best interests of the child.
Additionally, children should not serve as go-betweens for the parents and should be kept out of any disagreements or arguments between the parents. Frustration with the other parent should be kept between the parents and concerns should be resolved between the parents. Exchanges between the parents should stay focused on the children and should not be lengthy to help minimize conflict and promote resolution of whatever concern is being discussed. It is important to keep in mind that encouraging the children to enjoy their time with the other parent and communicate with the other parent is best for the children.
In addition, it is also important to have shared ground rules but also to understand that parents may have different parenting styles. Child custody can be a complex subject but as long as parents remain focused on what is in the best interests of the child, and are aware of family law resources available to help them address their child custody concerns, they can more effectively co-parent.