If you are a noncustodial parent, you already understand how challenging it is to co-parent from a separate household. Imagine what it must be like to parent from another state.
Perhaps you received a lucrative job opportunity in another state, or maybe your mother is ill, and you need to move closer to her. Whatever the reason, you are concerned about how a move might affect your kids and your parenting rights.
Relocation doesn’t have to harm either
Life in the 21st century has its benefits. You have access to a wealth of communication technology and traveling long distances is relatively easy. Realistically, you could be with your children in less than a day.
Despite the possibility of fast access, long-distance parenting can feel terrible. Most people experience guilt, loneliness and the unbearable thought that they might be a bad parent.
Tips from a long-distance noncustodial parent
One father whose co-parents moved with their kids for work felt those emotions even though he was not the one relocating. He made their new situation work with intimate and consistent co-parenting.
- Embrace technology. Use it for observing and interacting on a meaningful level with your children, their schools and their activities.
- Make traditions. Turn some of your facetime calls into interactive experiences (coloring pictures together, sharing a pre-bedtime snack, etc.).
- Be accessible. Let your kids know they can contact you anytime for any (or no) reason, and you will be present for them.
Family courts understand the many nuances of co-parenting in the modern world. While they won’t approve child custody modifications for frivolous reasons, they will consider changes that do not compromise the best interests of your kids. You have rights as a parent even when you are at a distance. To assert these, it might be best to seek some legal guidance.
